Friendship Formula.

Friendship Has a Distinct Formula. These Are What I Believe To Be The Basic Tenets Of Building a Relationship Anywhere With Anyone.

I traveled through many seasons of life and many locales around the world. I have sought out friendship and have had others seek friendship with me. I have avoided it and embraced it. But what I have noticed is there is a simple formula to all of it. That proximity plus repetition equals acquaintanceship but if you add the third element of shared interest you have the full recipe for friendship.

Proximity, in other words, be there with someone. If it’s a cafe, a bar, a gym, a hostel, or a spa, maybe its traveling the world. Wherever it may be, you have to be in the same locale. The ideal way to go about this, is to be in a place you enjoy thoroughly. Because it plays into the final element of friendship and that is shared interest. If you like where you’re at and you meet someone there who also enjoys it you already have two pieces of the puzzle.

Repetition, you have to continually show up. Be there and be there consistently. If you found a place you enjoy found a person there who also enjoys it there and you keep coming back to that location you can easily build acquaintances within that space. If those acquaintances have the same interests as you, you have the final piece of friendship and that is shared interest.

Shared interest is exactly what it means. Do you like the same things? Do you enjoy sports, travel or leisure? Maybe you have an acumen for chess, puzzles, or board games. Maybe you have musical alignments. Do you have families that like similar adventures? It can be literally anything. That is why it helps to meet in a place that brings you joy. So when you break it all down here is the simple formula.

Proximity + Repetition + Shared Interest = Friendship.

And the beauty of it all is when you have established a solid friendship, if any of the formula is removed for a period of time. You don’t necessarily lose the friendship since you already built the foundation. But if they are removed for a long enough period it is harder to reestablish. Or it can end it all together. So keep these ideas in mind if you are attempting to begin or end a friendship.