Parenting Archives - Blowing It

February 5, 2021February 6, 2021

Feeding Your Child Store-Bought Baby Food laden With Toxic Heavy Metals.

Most Store-Bought Baby Food Contain Dangerous Levels Of Toxic Heavy Metals.

Is that not insane? This all goes back to simply trusting the food manufacturers and believing what they put in our foods are safe even for the most fragile lives among us. Yet that trust is shattered when they poison babies with dangerous levels of toxic heavy metals in store-bought baby food. Just read this article from CNN.

So many parents are unaware of this mass poisoning. And we would all stay blissfully ignorant to it, had congress not stepped in and conducted an investigation. It’s terrifying the ramifications that many children will have due to this criminal oversight. Yet I’m sure the purveyors of these companies won’t be punished. Which they should be to the full extent of the law.

These children who have ingested these high levels of toxic heavy metals in their food for years growing up. Could end up with all kind of health and developmental issues from cancer to neurodegenerative diseases. All from their parent’s trusted source of food. Parents who probably were none the wiser and thought they were doing good feeding their children from these sources.

Take Control of What We Feed Our children

This all comes back to one option. We have to take responsibility for feeding our own children. And not outsource it to large manufacturers who are poisoning our children. Sure it’s a little less convenient to have to make our own baby food but you have to consider the alternative. It’s an absolute no brainer if you know what you now know.

It’s really not that difficult either. Just buy the whole healthy organic fruits and vegetables you want to feed your child. Then feed those through a masticating juicer if your baby is allowed raw foods or steam and mash them if they can’t. Super simple and just might save a child’s life.

November 22, 2019November 22, 2019

Mouth Breathing Children. Avoiding Failure #229

If You Have Mouth Breathing Children Who Are Acting Out. Get Them Checked Out With A Sleep Physician. As Well As Ear Nose and Throat.

If a child is acting out we often jump to conclusion of the sad diagnosis, ADHD. Children are often pumped full of drugs that they often don’t need because of failures to spot more underlying cause. We tend to avoid digging deeper and except that fate. But we should always dig deeper especially when it comes to children.

Sleep has such a profound affect on all humans especially young children with rapidly developing brains. And as one mother recently pointed out her son was wildly acting out and was slightly uncontrollable. Usual diagnosis would categorize this as ADHD and he would be put on ritalin or something similar. They may have to try numerous drugs to find the right concoction. One that would insure he remains vacant and docile but more focused. But the hidden in this child’s suffering was a severe lack of sleep brought on by sleep apnea. And blocked nasal airways.

This could have easily gone unnoticed if it wasn’t for a diligent mother who noticed her child would sleep with his mouth open. Children should not be breathing through their mouths ever. It’s a huge red flag and one that should never go unchecked and untreated. Especially if your child is having behavioral problems and acting out.

Always check the quantity and quality of their sleep. The brain doesn’t get enough oxygen when mouth breathing and the lower oxygen saturation the brain receives the worse the sleep quality. And it can have a major impact in life. This child was getting absolutely no REM which is detrimental to brain health. Just be sure to exhaust all options before medication when it comes to the health of you and you child.

September 10, 2019September 10, 2019

Labeling Narcissist #220

If You Place A Narcissist Label Upon Another. Know That It Makes You A Narcissist Yourself.

Why do you label them a narcissist in the first place? Is it because you are not having “your” needs met? That they pay more attention to themselves then to you? Why do you care about what others do with their own time anyway?

Also know that unless you live in a cave and have renounced all forms of communication and pleasures of life. We all have a tinge of narcissism to our names. Just in me writing these words is proof of that tinge. Of course I want them to be helpful and useful to others first and foremost. But they are my words that I look after and care for. And want the absolute best for them. Call it narcissism, I’m guilty too.

We All Live Out Our Ideals For Self Aggrandizement.

Some do it in a way of attention seeking while others do it in a way of internal discovery. What that looks like on the outside differs from person to person as well.

Some internalize and withdrawal. Some seek attention in whatever form or medium that best reciprocates their sense of affection, some lash out. The child that is not embraced by the village will one day burn it down just to feel its warmth.

We all want to be heard, to have a voice. We all want to be embraced by others. Narcissism may just be a more extreme form of this and it may be due to past trauma. I’d be willing to bet many on the extreme end of the narcissist spectrum. That individual dealt with such neglect early on in life that it mutated into what you see now. That damage is on the parents of that child. Love and embrace your children often.

Love Yourself.

Just don’t be like Narcissus who ended up falling in love with his own reflection and killed himself because his true love wouldn’t materialize. Love what’s looking back at you in the mirror. Just don’t do it to the point where nothing else matters.

June 24, 2019July 17, 2019

The Selfish Act Of Having Children #197.

Unless You Truly Believe That The Children You Have Will Save The World. Or Cure an Incurable Disease. And You Do Everything In Your Power To Guide Them To That.

Otherwise the children you have created was from a self-centered focus. I know this may be a difficult pill to swallow. No one wants to believe they were acting in a purely egocentric manor. By committing the self-serving act of having a baby, or starting a family with the one they love. But it is a selfish act and there is nothing wrong with that, own it.

Children Are Consummate Consumers

Children are pure consumption for nearly the first 18 years of their lives. They produce absolutely nothing but waste and use up valuable resources. So why is it that most of us want them so bad at certain points in our life? It’s because they add so much to your life. And that is the point here, they add to YOUR life. They probably bring joy to others as well and hopefully they do but that was not the sole purpose in you having them.

Maybe you had your child because you thought it may give you meaning or purpose in life. Perhaps you had your child because it was written into your genetic code. That in order for a species or family to live on you must procreate. Is it possible you had your child out of unconditional love, both to give and to receive? Maybe you had your child to save you from something, be it yourself, drugs or a broken marriage. Many people try this tact, which is far more selfish. You now place that burden to carry you, upon your new addition to the family. I hate to say it but all these are selfish reasons.

What Was Your Reason For Having Children?

Possibly you didn’t even mean to have your child. Which is highly selfish in it’s own right. Because you acted irresponsibly and now this child you brought into the world wasn’t even wanted in the first place. And you may choose to stay self centered and outsource that child’s upbringing to another. Those are the truly selfless, the ones who care for others children even when they didn’t create the life. The great step parents, foster parents, and adopting families. The teachers who care for their students 7 to 8 hours a day. It might not be completely altruistic. They get paid to do it but kids are difficult and they don’t always get paid enough.

I’m not trying to say it’s wrong to have kids or to want to have them. They very well could make this world a much better place. And a lot of children do just with their presence. It’s that very presence that drives us to have them in the first place and often times to have more. But just like giving is the selfish act of feeling good to help another. Having children falls into a similar category. It’s the selfish act of bringing yourself more joy and love and giving it in return.

Parents End Up Having To Become Selfless In The End.

The greatest mother I’ve ever known aside from my own, pointed out to me. The wanting and the having of children may be a selfish act but once they’re here they teach you to truly be selfless. Because raising a child is all about their needs while yours takes a back seat.

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January 29, 2019July 19, 2019

Washington State Declares State Of Emergency Due To Measles Outbreak And Parents Avoiding Vaccines #180.

Even If It Could Be Proven That Vaccines Cause Developmental Problems In Children. Wouldn’t You Rather A Live Child Than The Alternative?

There are vaccines to prevent Measles, maybe it needs to be used. Than again no one has died yet from the recent outbreak of the illness. So to each there own. Some parents believe in vaccinations some don’t.

If You Chose An Anti Vaccines Route.

If you want to live at the mercy of nature go for it but if you do that and your child ends up sick you better drastically quarantine that child off from the rest of the herd. You are now responsible for that mostly eradicated illness showing up on your front doorstep and if you subject other people to it. You are a burden on society.

I don’t subscribe to either camp really but I do think there is a level of responsibility regardless of the choice you make. Protect your children the best way you know how.

August 28, 2018July 2, 2019

Youthful Premature Maturity (Blowing It Scenario #139).

Kids Are Growing Up And Using Adult Themes Far Earlier Than Ever Before And It’s Not A Good Thing.

I recently read an article where a young boy of nine years old came out to his classmates as gay. He then received everything but support from his class. Children can also be very cruel when they lack understanding and have no remorse. This boy of nine was than ridiculed to the point of suicide. I’ll say it again, only nine years old. It’s incredibly tragic and I feel it’s avoidable.

Maybe it’s just me but I think both sexual orientation and suicide are topics that no nine year should approach that young, and if they do, guide them away from it. I had no idea what gay or straight was when I was that age. And that’s how it should be. Kids should not at all be discussing their own sexual orientation that young. It’s far too heavy of a burden for a child. I get that we all are attracted to others starting at a very young age and sometimes that attraction is to those of the same sex. But it doesn’t make sense to voice it at that age when you are still many years away from seeking a partner. That goes for straight kids as well.

Kids are doing terrible things far before their maturity is there to really know right from wrong. And it’s all due to the information input they are receiving. It’s tragic that a child feels they can’t simply be a child that they need to take on heavier issues. The mother in the case of the boy did what every mother should do, love your child unconditionally. But I feel maybe if the child was better prepared for the cruel outside world that doesn’t love like a mother. He may have not approached such a subject with his peers quite yet. He would have waited for the right time. And yes there is a right time and it’s not nine. You may know then but you are not ready then.

And if you believe that nine is an appropriate age to take on adult themes, than maybe you’ll agree we should also allow nine year olds to have adult responsibilities like drive, vote, smoke, enroll in the military, drink alcohol to their hearts content, work a 40 year hour workweek. But that’s not the case because there are safe guards to protect children and we shouldn’t stop at just government mandates. Your home should always the first and main safe guard to protect children even if that means it’s not what they want to hear.

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April 16, 2018June 1, 2018

Blowing It Scenario #74-Police In Canada Arresting Parents Who Hog Tied Sexual Predator Who Was Targeting Their 13 Year Old Daughter.

Can Parents Not Protect Their Children Anymore.

It’s crazy to me that this is a crime that the parents committed and not a crime by the true criminal. If a 28 year old man tries to solicit sex on instagram from a 13 year old girl and that girls parents step in and capture this sexual predator when he come to their house for the inappropriate meet up. They should be given an award not arrested. Instead that’s exactly what happened in Canada recently.

Police told the parents to forget the man and block him on instagram but did nothing to the true criminal in this scenario. Instead they arrested the parents for their actions. The father said am I not alloyed to protect my family in my own house. I could not agree with him more he should have every right to do such a thing. Now this pedophile walks free while the true heroes face charges. What are we do when predators hide behind computer setting traps for innocent children to fall prey too. The parents had their answer on how to bring this man out of the shadows and I think they should have every right to pursue vigilante justice if police are unwilling to follow up a parents request to bring this man to justice themselves.

As for the websites these sick individuals operate within and fake profiles they hide behind, those websites should do more to protect children. If someone is being harassed online that person should have every right to know who their attacker is and be able to prosecute them to the full extent and backing of the law. The internet can be a very unsafe place, especially for young children. Keep them safe anyway you can, even if that means you have to get arrested for it, like this Canadian couple, than so be it.

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April 15, 2018June 1, 2018

Blowing It Scenario #73-The Sad Story Of The Hart Family And How C.P.S. Was Too Late.

How Were These Women Able To Adopt So Many Children In The First Place.

Jennifer and Sarah Hart had six adopted children to take care of and they did the unthinkable in the end. When they drove their SUV carrying most likely all six children off a cliff in California, three children are still missing. It’s looking more and more like a homicide where all eight passengers were killed. How can such an unstable person get the approval to adopt six children let alone one? And how with frequent check ups from social workers could they maintain such a household?

From the outside these women put on a very convincingly happy facade. In all the pictures of the whole family they’re all smiling ear to ear. So how does such a tragedy occur? There were reports of child abuse by both the children and neighbors. Apparently the women were withholding meals from the children. So much so that the neighbors were feeding some of the kids up to three times a day. Yet when child protective services were closing in, the family went on the run.

By then it was too late to protect these children from their care givers. I’m not quite sure how adoptions are monitored over the years but I would hope that they maintain psychological evaluations on the adoptive parents and when red flags arise they remove the children from their care. Yet you hear about abuse often with adoptive parents. I would imagine, as soon as a child claims abuse they would immediately be removed from that environment. So we never have to hear of a story where adoptive parent launch their vehicle off a cliff at seventy miles an hour with six kids inside. No attempt to break what so ever. It’s a completely sad tragedy and one we hopefully learn from and can avoid in the future because no child’s life should be cut short, especially when their is preventable measures that can be taken.

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April 4, 2018June 1, 2018

Blowing It Scenario #63-Chastising Tattle Tales.

We Should Encourage Children To Tattle More.

We have all heard it so many times, parents will tell their children don’t be a tattle tale. No one likes a tattle tale. Or we’ll have fun colloquial phrases like, “snitches get stitches,” or “don’t be rat.” These ideas are reinforced in our mind through movies and television. Snitches really do get hurt and rats are killed every time you watch any gangster movie. So if you are raising your child to be successful in criminal activity or a gangster, definitely teach them to not to say something when they think another is doing wrong.

Children have an innate sense of right and wrong often better than that of the adult who cares for them and protects them. We should nurture their desire to share even if it means they sometimes won’t win approval, or they have to alienate another. And I get it kids will have absolutely annoying and pointless grips from time to time, but if we leave those unacknowledged or tell them to not tell on another. There just might come a time when major stuff happens to them, or around them, that they will be too afraid to come forward with. And they will avoid coming to the person they are supposed to trust most with these secrets. They’ll then begin to harbor these things in quiet solitude. Confined to the prison of their thoughts. And once in that state, there might begin a whole different slew of poor ways these secrets might manifest themselves throughout the rest of their lives. They could become reclusive, spiteful, hateful, addictive, abusive towards themselves and others, self destructive. The list goes on and on. All because they were too afraid confide in another. Because we built up barriers in their younger years by telling them falsehoods about sharing information. And those barriers became too insurmountable and it made them too afraid to speak out.

I’m not saying this is always the case and bad things don’t always happen to good kids that choose not to tell on another. But wouldn’t you rather have an open line of communication that knows no bounds? A relationship where trust is paramount and those kids know they can come to you with anything and you will listen? Kids are always going to tattle, listen and be rewarded. Close them off and they’ll begin to learn withholding is the best answer to their problems.

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April 2, 2018June 1, 2018

Blowing It Scenario #61-Condom Snorting Challenge, Kids Are Blowing It.

The Follow Up To The Tide Pods Challenge.

Kids are dumb sometimes and although they want you to think they have all the answers they do not always know how to assemble that knowledge in a cohesive way. This is why I think ninety percent of the internet should be off limits to children under eighteen but I don’t believe that should be a Government responsibility, it should be a parenting responsibility. Kids also have to deal with a whole other slew of problems through peer pressure bullying and an education system that is crumbling. On top of all that, they watch other idiotic kids trying to go viral on some online video streaming platform and think that it’s cool. So they begin to partake in all these asinine challenges.

First there was a Tide Pod challenge where kids literally were eating Tide Pods that are used to throw into your washing machine too wash your clothes. How ignorant do you have to be to think that is a good idea? Now the latest challenge apparently is the snorting condoms challenge where kids are snorting condoms through their nose and out their mouth. Just plain dumb. Yet kids keep pushing boundaries for that ever elusive validation of likes, views and subscribers.

There was a story I recently read of a teen in Australia who was dared by friends to eat a slug. Something most children would find completely harmless and disgustingly hilarious. However slugs often eat a horrific diet and live a life that brings them in close contact with feces of all animal sources. Particularly rat feces. So what this kid didn’t know was the slug he was about to ingest carried a deadly parasite called rat lungworm which commonly causes eosinophilic meningitis. Sometimes it’s its slightly harmless others deadly. However in this child’s case the the disease severely affected him and he went into a coma for four hundred and twenty days. Resulting in severe brain damage and is now paralyzed from the neck down. He requires round the clock attention. A young healthy teen cut down from his prime in his early years, all due to a ignorant challenge brought on by other young healthy, albeit, dumb teenagers.

So kids, be smarter, don’t follow the crowd, don’t do things just for attentions sake. Find a way to educate and not deteriorate society. Parents as well, monitor your children, lock them out of the internet if you have too. If they don’t understand how ignorant these challenges are, you have a lot more work to do.

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