Category: Actions

Learn To Contradict Your Beliefs As Well As Others.

This may seem like a misnomer but I assure you it’s very much not. You may think being contradictory is the wrong move. That it’s a move of an aggressor. Surely this is true, it sometime can be, especially when you are actively unwilling to except others beliefs. But I believe we need to often question and sometimes outright reject the status quo. We need to exercise dissension when we think others are in the wrong or doing harm. And most importantly we need to contradict our own belief systems when we receive pertinent information that can lead us to better conclusions.

We can’t always stay sustained on such miopic views. We must work to expand our understanding of all things. Don’t reject new thought, reject the thought of rejecting new thoughts. Actively try to contradict old beliefs. Be a walking talking contradiction, look at ideas from ever possible angle. Heck even this article is a complete contridiction. On one hand I’m telling to be contradictive throughout your life and in your beliefs. While on the other hand, although it’s much lessor of an argument, I’m recommending you not be contradictive, at least not in the combative sense. If you read through the work on this site you’ll find even more contradictions.

Thoughts and ideas are malleable they can bend to your will of influence or they can bend to others. Let them ebb and flow while retaining old information and gaining new insights. It’s human nature to get polarized in a belief but to blindly follow that unquestioning can sometimes do irrevocable harm to you and your relationships. Open your mind and expand your horizons, contradict your every thought to find your actual truths.



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Just As Standing Water Grows Sick And Putrid, So Will The Body And Mind If It Continues To Stay Stagnant.

Progress is tantamount to health, both of the body and mind. Leave either untouched or under worked and watch disease fill in the margins. Some of it will be seen but most goes unseen and unnoticed till it’s too late. The atrophy has set it and progress is simply a distance memory of a fleeting past life.

Always continue to keep moving forward like the pristine rivers that carve canyons and valleys in there wake of progress. Rivers that reshape geography into it’s own image. Rivers that harbor far less disease than standing water. Where stagnant water on the other hand is the breeding ground for it. Remember we humans are 90 percent water. So move your body stimulate your mind. Make small goals celebrates those tiny victories and when those are achieved make bigger ones. Keep progressively working towards bigger and better ambitions. Once you start to build momentum you can use that to carry you to the next wall that stands in your way and you will be able to bulldoze right through it. Use the power of habit to gain new routines, than use the power of routine to maintain results. Here’s how a habit is born and when you know habit creation you know how to use it to mold the life you want.

A habit is simply three parts. First part is the cue. This is your mental trigger that tells you to begin your routine. For example if you wanted to workout first thing in the morning you might put on workout clothes immediately after waking and that would be your cue to start your workout. Second part is routine, or the action part of your habit, this is the workout. Third part is reward this is where your habit gets reinforced. Maybe it’s a drink or smoothie maybe it’s simply the shower after the workout. Whatever it is give yourself a little treat to help lock in those gains you’ve made. Here’s the beauty, the routine portion can be easily interchangable, so if you have coffee in the morning and that’s your cue to have a cigarette. You could instead use coffee as a cue to go for a run. It’s not the best pre-work out drink but you can see in this example how the routine can be changed. Just be sure to reward yourself after the action is complete. You can also habit stack, this is where add more routines to other routines. And you basically use routines as your cue to begin the next. So say you want to create a great morning. You would wake and waking would be the cue. You than brush your teeth which is routine that also acts as the cue that leads you to the next routine, say it’s workout. You workout, than workout becomes the cue to start writing or do something else productive and so on and so forth until you get to your reward at the end of your habit loop. Play around with it, make it fun, just remember to keep progressing.



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I Dare You, What Are You Chicken?

This the battle cry of thousands of decisions gone awry. It’s the epitome of poor choices lead by pride and ego. No one wants to feel diminished to less than they are. Sometimes we expose a weakness of our will or fortitude and will see being pressed by others as a challenge to prove that we are more than capable for the task at hand. But that over confidence in our ability is often our ego not willing to relent or take the hit.

Why must we prove ourselves to another for the sake of their enjoyment or entertainment. We only need to prove to ourselves that we’re capable of whatever we set our minds to. And in just knowing within ourselves that we’re more than capable, we never have to show another that we can do something because we already know we can.

Make it your own decision of how you display yourself to the world. Will you be trapped in what others may want you to do, challenged by your ego or pride? Or will you do what you want what feels right to you. If someone ever challenges you to a dare tell them you know you could do it but won’t for them. Instead let them fall on their own sword. Ego is strong but will is stronger.

However ego is never fully gone. There’s a catch to zen mastery. If your trying to let go of the ego, it takes ego to obtain such results. To try is to work with your ego to attempt to vanquish it. Don’t work against it. Just be in the moment and you’ll reach a happier state.

I believe Benjamin Franklin in his attempt to master what he believed to be thirteen virtues. One of which was humility. He stated that the pursuit of humility is never achieved because once one achieves it they become prideful of their accomplishment. Hense defeating that virtue of humility. You can be proud but also try to stay humble, show you can exercise humility even in the smallest of decisions. And celebrate that you did. Be proud of not having to demonstrate your pride or ego.



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An Attraction That Steals One’s Focus.

I thinks it’s safe to say we live in the most distracting era ever in history. We have endless entertainment laying in wait in our pockets or handbags. Just at the tips of our fingers we can contact anyone in the world and they can contact us. Either with voice calls, text or videos. Just now I’m being distracted by my phone and my pets. We have family and friends who need our attention and sometimes we need theirs. Our email boxes are perpetual growth machines which is not a good thing.

In a time we need to maximize our focus to get ahead, we seem to have such a limited supply. Or we’ll put or focus into menial task that don’t move the needle forward. We’ll waste hours surfing the web, or posting on social media, or binge watching the latest series on Netflix. We’re so distracted we can’t even give our significant others the time of day. You see it all the time, boyfriend and girlfriend sitting across from each other out in public, both their heads buried in their phones. Because who can be bothered with the bore of a person they chose to spend their time with when there are so much more important more entertaining things to get done online? Groups of friends while out together won’t even talk to each other in the presence of each other because they are so enthralled with their technology. We need to re-establish our focus win our time back. Focus is paramount to getting stuff done as well as being respectful to those you are with.

Delete the apps, turn off the phone, the t.v. the tablet. If you can’t do that at least set them to do not disturb when you need to give your attention to someone or something else. In order to get real work done, you may have to cut out all distraction. Find a place where no device, no person, basically a place nothing can disturb your work. Maybe an office, hallway, closet what ever you need to find complete peace. Simply focus on the task at hand and you’ll be able to get far more work done in a fraction of the time. Let’s not be so frivolous with our time or our mental capacity. Let’s stop wasting it with distraction and gain back some much needed focus.



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